Two bonus modules
One for couples who've done this before. One for the week someone goes back to work, which is the day most arrangements quietly stop working.
Coming soon
A self-paced course for expecting couples
The Pre-Baby Relationship Playbook
Eight conversations to have before they arrive, so you walk into the first year already knowing how you'll handle it. From a postpartum therapist and mom of 2.
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No call needed. Your details come straight to me and stay private.
- From a licensed marriage and family therapist
- Eight sessions you do together
- Twenty to forty minutes each
- Yours to keep, forever
Be honest for a second
Are you really prepared for baby?
You've signed up for the birthing class. There's a stack of books on your nightstand about what to expect, week by week. You know how big the baby is this week.
All of that prepares you for the baby. Very little of it prepares the two of you.
And the relationship is where so many couples feel it most. Somewhere between the night feeds and the "did you buy more diapers" texts, they start passing each other in the hallway like roommates. Two tired people running a household, missing each other.
This Playbook is the prep for that part. A guided set of conversations you have together now, while you both have the sleep and the space to have them well, so you meet your baby as partners and stay that way.
What actually happens after baby
The thing that drives the drop is not the fighting. It's the warmth thinning out.
There's a lot of research on what happens to couples after a first baby, and one finding surprised me enough that I rebuilt how I teach this.
Nobody decides to stop being affectionate. You're both exhausted, you're both busy, and one week you notice you haven't said anything kind out loud in five days.
The division of labor matters, and we spend a whole session on it. But on its own, it explains less than you'd think.
So this course is built around the thing that actually goes missing, and then around the arrangement that protects it.
Here's exactly what's inside
Eight conversations, in the right order, together.
Before you start
Two solo modules
One for the birthing partner, one for the other. Ten minutes each, on your own, because a few of these questions land better if you've met them before your partner asks.
Then eight sessions you do together
Turning Toward
The small moments the whole thing is built on, and the habit to start tonight rather than when the baby comes.
The Load
The three kinds of work in a home, who's carrying what, and how to divide it before anyone is keeping score.
How We Fight
Your pattern, named, while you're both calm enough to look at it. Plus what you'll say to stop one at 11pm.
Our Team
How you'll make decisions, ask for help, and say no.
What We Carry
How you were each raised, what you want to keep, what you're determined to break. And the method for settling the parenting questions you can't answer yet.
Everyone Else
Family, visitors, opinions, and the boundaries you'll need in the first six weeks.
Sleep, Money, Leave
The three practical ones. Shifts, childcare costs, who takes what time off, and what happens when someone goes back.
Birth and Bodies
What each of you needs in the room, recovery, and what intimacy looks like on the other side.
Plus
A worksheet for every session
Every session comes with a worksheet, and every session ends with something written down.
A Faith Companion
Scripture and prompts alongside the main material. Use it or leave it. The course works either way.
What you walk away with
Your Agreements.
One document the two of you build across the eight sessions.
It's the thing you'll pull up at two in the morning in month three, when you can't remember what you agreed and neither of you is in any state to renegotiate.
Your Agreements
- What your appreciation time is.
- What you say to stop a fight.
- Who owns which parts of the house.
- How the nights are split.
- What you'll say to your mother about visiting.
- When you'll revisit all of it.
Is this for us?
This is for you if...
- You're expecting, and you'd rather have the hard conversations now to get on the same page.
- You two are good. This isn't a repair job, it's preparation.
- You want something you do together, not another book one of you reads alone.
- You'd like to have thoughtful and necessary dialogue before your baby arrives.
It also works if this isn't your first. There's a bonus module written specifically for second and third-time parents, because almost all prenatal material is written as though everyone is new.
The honest part
Here's the honest reason I built this.
If we haven't met yet, I'm Hannah, a licensed marriage and family therapist. I work with postpartum couples, and I have two daughters.
I knew all of it before my first was born. I had read the research. I was already a couples therapist. I could have given you this exact course.
And I still spent a year in my own house feeling like a roommate.
Knowing it and building it are two different things. What I needed was not more information. It was somebody sitting us down and asking the questions in the right order, early, while we still had the energy to answer them.
That's what this is.
Hannah Christian, LMFT
Licensed marriage and family therapist · mom of 2
The pricing
Yours to keep. Nothing else to buy, ever.
The Course
$147$147
Eight sessions, two solo modules, two bonus modules, every worksheet, and your Agreements document. Yours to keep.
Join the waitlistThe Course + A Session With Me
$297
Everything above, plus a 60-minute session with the two of you and me, to go through your Agreements together. You book it whenever you want it, before the baby or in the first months after.
Most couples who add it use it near the end, once they've got something written down for me to look at.
Join the waitlistAdding the session later is $275 on its own. There's nothing else to buy, ever.
Frequently asked questions
Good questions.
When should we do this?
Any time in pregnancy. Second and third trimester are ideal, early enough that you have the energy and late enough that it feels real. It also works after the baby comes, and plenty of couples will find it then.
How long does each session take?
Twenty to forty minutes, including the conversation. The video part is short.
Do we both have to do it?
Yes. The exercises need two people. The solo modules are the only parts you do separately.
What if we disagree about something?
Good. That's the point of doing it now rather than in month four. The course is built to handle disagreement, and several sessions are specifically about what to do when you want different things.
We are good. Do we really need this?
Most couples who take this are good. The couples who struggle after a baby are mostly couples who were fine beforehand, which is exactly why the preparation goes unused.
How long do we have access?
Forever and always.
Is this therapy?
No. This is education and coaching, which means I can work with couples anywhere, not just California. If something comes up that needs more, I'll tell you and help you find the right person.
Is there a faith-based version?
There's a Faith Companion included, with scripture and prompts alongside the main material. Use it or leave it. The course works either way.
Meet your baby as partners, and stay that way.
Join the waitlist, and you'll be the first to know when the Playbook opens.
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